How to Stop Being Defensive
How do you react when your partner complains about something you’ve said or done? Do you feel attacked and want to fight back or bring up something they did in the past? Or do you feel overwhelmed, injured and unable…
How to Enrich Your Life
Have you ever felt like there should be more to life? “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honourable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have…
How to Detox Your Life
Clearing Away Things That Don’t Serve You “You will find that it is necessary to let things go; simply for the reason that they are heavy.” — C. Joy Bell If you want to live to your fullest potential, you…
How to be a Good Partner
Are You a Good Partner? Everyone wants a good partner. Are you one? What would your partner say? There seems to be a lot of talk nowadays about bad partners. Everybody seems to have one. No good women, no good…
Tell The Truth
“You know, in the deepest part of your heart, that when you don’t tell the truth, the world falls apart.” ―Jordan B. Peterson. Honesty is good for your mental health Tell the truth. Like the fabric of your existence depends…
Avoiding Relationship Breakdown
“Challenges are what make life interesting, and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.” – Joshua J. Marine Investigating Problems Consistently and skilfully explore the problems you have as a couple and as individuals together, as they arise. If you…
Good Relationship Habits
“What comes easy won’t last long, and what lasts long won’t come easy.” — Francis Kong The End of The Honeymoon PHASE When it comes to our physical health, we know that prevention is better than cure. We know that…
The Art of Self-Regulation
A Love Story. Learning the Art of Self-Regulation. “We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship, and we can be healed in relationship.” – Harville Hendrix Dysfunctional childhoods often lead to emotional dysregulation in children and adults. Conversely,…
Developing Inner Strength
Forward Motion It occurred to me recently, when walking up a steep track on the hill by my home, a hill I power up regularly, that it is important to develop a strong upward, and forward motion in life, no…
Doing ‘The Work’
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” – Aristotle Self Knowledge What is your relationship with yourself like? I ask many clients this question as it often occurs to me early on in our working relationship that people don’t…