Welcome to my blog. Here I share honest, no-nonsense writing about relationships, intimacy, and mental health. My goal is simple: to give you tools, insights, and encouragement you can use in real life.
How much sex should you be having in marriage? A relationship therapist on what the research says, why once a week is a sensible minimum, and why more is often better.
A relationship therapist on sexual fitness: why a healthy sex life in marriage takes effort, like physical fitness, and how to start with a free Sexual Fitness Check-Up.
A therapist answers 30 real sexless marriage questions from husbands and wives: how much sex is enough, low desire, pressure, menopause, porn, and whether intimacy can come back.
How to Stop Self-Censoring and Find Your Voice in Your Marriage Walking on eggshells around your wife, too frightened to bring up your sex life, or anything else that might set her off? A relationship therapist on why so many…
Why Sex Matters in Marriage, and How to Protect It Together A relationship therapist on why marriage is a sexual relationship, and why that doesn’t change after children, weight gain or menopause. Why “nobody owes anybody sex” misses the point,…
How to Tell the Difference Between Sexual Generosity and Self-Betrayal Not in the mood for sex, but wondering whether you should say yes anyway? A relationship therapist’s traffic light system for wives who want to be generous without betraying themselves,…
Why an Avoidant Wife Pulls Away From Intimacy, and How to Reach Her A relationship therapist on being married to a sexually avoidant wife. Why avoidant attachment in marriage shuts down affection and sex, where the attachment wound comes from,…
What It Really Means to Ask for What You Want in Marriage A relationship therapist on asking for what you want in marriage. How to tell a healthy desire from an emotional wound, how to ask without pressure, how to…
What Marital Duty actually Means in a Marriage A relationship therapist on marital duty and the needs of a marriage. Why your spouse’s needs are your responsibility, what counts as a reasonable need, and how shifting from demand to generosity…
Why Sex Won’t Just Happen in a Long Marriage A relationship therapist on why sex in marriage will not take care of itself. The myth of natural desire, the internal green light, and how to make sex a project that…