Sexless Marriage, Intimacy & Relationship Advice

Welcome to my blog. Here I share honest, no-nonsense writing about relationships, intimacy, and mental health. My goal is simple: to give you tools, insights, and encouragement you can use in real life.

Laura How with Elliot Burgess on The Paradox of Change podcast

Relationships, podcast

Podcast: We’re All Sexual Beings, So Why Do We Fight It? (The Paradox of Change)

My conversation with therapists Lottie Passell-Syms and Elliot Burgess on The Paradox of Change: why marriage is a sexual relationship, how couples become sexually unfit, and what to do if your marriage is going sexless.

Laura How
November 5, 2026

How much sex should you be having? Laura How, relationship therapist, recommends sex once a week

Relationships

Sexless Marriage? Here’s How Much Sex You Should Be Having

How much sex should you be having in marriage? A relationship therapist on what the research says, why once a week is a sensible minimum, and why more is often better.

Laura How
October 20, 2026

Relationships

Sexual Fitness: Why Your Sex Life Needs Effort Too

A relationship therapist on sexual fitness: why a healthy sex life in marriage takes effort, like physical fitness, and how to start with a free Sexual Fitness Check-Up.

Laura How
October 12, 2026

Sexless marriage questions answered by therapist Laura How in her 50K Q&A

Relationships

Sexless Marriage Questions: 30 Real Questions From Husbands and Wives, Answered

A therapist answers 30 real sexless marriage questions from husbands and wives: how much sex is enough, low desire, pressure, menopause, porn, and whether intimacy can come back.

Laura How
October 8, 2026

Relationships

Walking on Eggshells Around Your Wife? Start Telling the Truth

How to Stop Self-Censoring and Find Your Voice in Your Marriage Walking on eggshells around your wife, too frightened to bring up your sex life, or anything else that might set her off? A relationship therapist on why so many…

Laura How
September 29, 2026

Relationships

Marriage Is a Sexual Relationship: A Therapist’s Message to Wives

Why Sex Matters in Marriage, and How to Protect It Together A relationship therapist on why marriage is a sexual relationship, and why that doesn’t change after children, weight gain or menopause. Why “nobody owes anybody sex” misses the point,…

Laura How
September 22, 2026

Relationships

Not in the Mood for Sex? When Saying Yes Is a Gift (And When It Isn’t)

How to Tell the Difference Between Sexual Generosity and Self-Betrayal Not in the mood for sex, but wondering whether saying yes would be a gift or a betrayal of yourself? A relationship therapist’s traffic light system for wives who want…

Laura How
August 25, 2026

Relationships

Sexually Avoidant Wife: What Actually Helps

Why an Avoidant Wife Pulls Away From Intimacy, and How to Reach Her A relationship therapist on being married to a sexually avoidant wife. Why avoidant attachment in marriage shuts down affection and sex, where the attachment wound comes from,…

Laura How
July 29, 2026

Relationships

How to Ask for What You Want in Your Marriage

What It Really Means to Ask for What You Want in Marriage A relationship therapist on asking for what you want in marriage. How to tell a healthy desire from an emotional wound, how to ask without pressure, how to…

Laura How
July 17, 2026

Relationships

Your Spouse’s Needs Matter

What Marital Duty actually Means in a Marriage A relationship therapist on marital duty and the needs of a marriage. Why your spouse’s needs are your responsibility, what counts as a reasonable need, and how shifting from demand to generosity…

Laura How
July 14, 2026