How to be a Good Partner

Are You a Good Partner?

Everyone wants a good partner. Are you one?

What would your partner say?

There seems to be a lot of talk nowadays about bad partners. Everybody seems to have one. No good women, no good men. I suspect, however, that if we thought at least as much about ourselves and whether we are in fact a good or a bad partner, things would improve significantly.

What Qualities do Good Partners Have?

Here is a list of 12 qualities a good partner might have. It’s obviously not a complete list because there are infinite ways in which we could be good partners, but hopefully it’s enough to get you thinking.

1. They don’t lie.
   Good partners are honest so you feel that you can trust them. You don’t worry about what they are up to or where they are going. This is a lovely experience.
   
2. They are committed to the relationship.
   You feel as though your partner is really in the relationship with you. They don’t tend to threaten the relationship when things get difficult. They aren’t looking for a way out. It is you and them.
   
3. They are approachable.
   You don’t feel scared to talk to them when you have a concern. They are open and receptive to any worries that you have. They are equally interested in addressing them.
   
4. They are not reactive.
   You feel safe as a result of the fact that they are not looking for drama, they aren’t looking for a fight, they are more interested in peace and harmony.
   
5. They are available.
   You feel as though you have your partner’s attention. They are present with you enough of the time. You feel like they care about who you are, what you want and what you need. They are not too often distracted.
   
6. They are willing to change.
   A good partner is continuously growing and developing. You don’t need to worry about them becoming the best version of themselves because they are committed to that themselves.
   
7. They are supportive.
   A good partner will want you to do well. They will want you to be healthy and happy and to fulfil your potential. They will feel like your biggest fan.
   
8. They are healthy.
   A good partner takes care of themselves physically, emotionally, psychologically. They care about their own health and that makes them attractive.
   
9. They are respectful.
   A good partner treats you well. They talk to you kindly and not rudely. They don’t bad mouth you to other people, so you feel valued.
   
10. They are productive.
    A good partner takes their fair share of responsibilities. They are not lazy, so you feel like you are a team.
    
11. They anticipate their partner’s needs.
    A good partner cares about what you want and what you need. They give generously and you feel fulfilled.
    
12. They are good company.
    A good partner is generally positive, good fun and great to be around.

If all of these apply to you then congratulations, you are a great partner! If not give one or two a go… not for a day, perhaps for something like a month and see how your relationship improves!