Sexless marriages are more common than most people realise, yet they remain one of the hardest issues for couples and therapists to address. Conversations about sex often get avoided, minimised, or deferred indefinitely, leaving resentment, disconnection, and confusion to grow.…
We all know sex tends to decline with age; that’s nothing new. But what’s happening now is different. Couples today are having far less sex than couples the same age just a generation ago⁽¹⁾. What used to be once a…
Relationship Needs vs. Wants Relationship needs are the fundamental requirements for a romantic partnership to thrive, ensuring both partners feel secure, respected, and valued. These non-negotiable elements form the foundation of a healthy relationship and include trust, communication, emotional safety,…
Is Sexual Intimacy a Want or a Need? If you engage with relationship advice content as I do, you’re likely aware that the discussion surrounding relational needs is a hot topic. The need for emotional connection. The need for honest…
Porn in Marriage If you want your marriage to thrive then it must be treated as a major priority in your life. In order for this to be the case it is essential to challenge your own behaviours on a…
Exploring The Morality of Sexual obligation Firstly, a disclaimer: every sexual encounter in your marriage should always involve the willing consent of both partners. And every sexual act should be performed by choice, as an act of love and never,…
Sex is an Emotional Need A fulfilling sex life is not a bi-product of a successful marriage, it’s a necessary component of one. It’s not a special treat, a reward for good behaviour or a bargaining chip for favour. It’s…
A Holistic Approach to Relational Well-Being If we as human beings want to feel whole and fully alive, then we need to tend to every aspect of our health as individuals. In my view this includes, amongst other things, our…
Sex in The Honeymoon Phase Sex is rarely a problem for couples in the throws of early relationship euphoria. The heady, lust filled giddiness of the honeymoon phase. You’re both convinced that you finally met your soul mate, the perfect partner. You were…
What Does ‘Libido’ Really Mean? We commonly think of the word libido to simply mean ‘sex-drive’. And whilst that’s certainly true, it’s actually much more than that. The Latin word libido means desire, longing or lust and it refers to our…