Sexless marriages are more common than most people realise, yet they remain one of the hardest issues for couples and therapists to address. Conversations about sex often get avoided, minimised, or deferred indefinitely, leaving resentment, disconnection, and confusion to grow.…
We all know sex tends to decline with age; that’s nothing new. But what’s happening now is different. Couples today are having far less sex than couples the same age just a generation ago⁽¹⁾. What used to be once a…
Editor’s Note: Updated August 2025 to cover more perspectives. If your wife no longer wants to have sex with you, it can feel like the bottom has dropped out of your marriage. Because for most men, sex is the primary…
Breaking The Anger Cycle & Rebuilding Intimacy If you’re angry because your wife won’t have sex with you, and that anger is pushing her even further away, it can feel like you’re trapped in a cycle you can’t escape. In…
Is Sexual Intimacy a Want or a Need? If you engage with relationship advice content as I do, you’re likely aware that the discussion surrounding relational needs is a hot topic. The need for emotional connection. The need for honest…
Porn in Marriage If you want your marriage to thrive then it must be treated as a major priority in your life. In order for this to be the case it is essential to challenge your own behaviours on a…
Exploring The Morality of Sexual obligation Firstly, a disclaimer: every sexual encounter in your marriage should always involve the willing consent of both partners. And every sexual act should be performed by choice, as an act of love and never,…
A Plea for Compassion If you’re a woman and you’re married to a generally good man, a kind, loving and devoted husband, but sex has been off the menu for some time, without consultation with or willing consent from him,…
Sex is an Emotional Need A fulfilling sex life is not a bi-product of a successful marriage, it’s a necessary component of one. It’s not a special treat, a reward for good behaviour or a bargaining chip for favour. It’s…
The Decline of Intimacy in Marriage You must have heard the old penny jar metaphor? The old folk tale that suggests that if a married couple were to put a penny in a jar for every sexual encounter during the…