A Plea for Compassion If you’re a woman and you’re married to a generally good man, a kind, loving and devoted husband, but sex has been off the menu for some time, without consultation with or willing consent from him,…
Sex is an Emotional Need A fulfilling sex life is not a bi-product of a successful marriage, it’s a necessary component of one. It’s not a special treat, a reward for good behaviour or a bargaining chip for favour. It’s…
The Decline of Intimacy in Marriage You must have heard the old penny jar metaphor? The old folk tale that suggests that if a married couple were to put a penny in a jar for every sexual encounter during the…
A Holistic Approach to Relational Well-Being If we as human beings want to feel whole and fully alive, then we need to tend to every aspect of our health as individuals. In my view this includes, amongst other things, our…
A ‘Hopeless’ Marriage? I’ve been inundated with comments on YouTube from people married to what they would describe as hopelessly uncaring spouses. Lost causes. They tell me they’ve done everything they possibly can to be a loving partner but that despite…
Men & Women are Different One of the most common complaints I hear about men from their wives is that they’re not as emotionally available or present as their wives would like them to be. And in my experience, even…
Are Women High Maintenance? I received a comment on my YouTube channel a few days ago in response to a video about unmet needs that cause men to withdraw from their wives. It read: “Hey guys. You want unconditional love, respect,…
How Women Can Help Their Husbands TO Become More Present The number one complaint I hear from wives when they come to couples counselling with their husbands, is that their husband has become distant or detached, and that he no…