Welcome to my blog. Here I share honest, no-nonsense writing about relationships, intimacy, and mental health. My goal is simple: to give you tools, insights, and encouragement you can use in real life.

Whether you are struggling in your marriage, navigating a sexless relationship, or simply looking to understand yourself better, you will find something here worth your time.

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How Sexless Marriages Hurt Men

A Plea for Compassion If you’re a woman and you’re married to a generally good man, a kind, loving and devoted husband, but sex has been off the menu for some time, without consultation with or willing consent from him,…

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How Much Sex is Enough in Marriage?

Sex is an Emotional Need A fulfilling sex life is not a bi-product of a successful marriage, it’s a necessary component of one. It’s not a special treat, a reward for good behaviour or a bargaining chip for favour. It’s…

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Why Women Go Off Sex

The Decline of Intimacy in Marriage You must have heard the old penny jar metaphor? The old folk tale that suggests that if a married couple were to put a penny in a jar for every sexual encounter during the…

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How to Take Control of Your Marriage

A ‘Hopeless’ Marriage? I’ve been inundated with comments on YouTube from people married to what they would describe as hopelessly uncaring spouses. Lost causes. They tell me they’ve done everything they possibly can to be a loving partner but that despite…

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How to Write a Relationship Contract

A Shared Vision for Your Relationship Is your relationship on the right track? Is your it where you hoped it would be when you first started dating? Is the division of labour in your household fair? Is your spending under control? Are…

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The News, Social Media & Mental Health

Screen Addiction When people come and see me nowadays, I’m having to ask questions that I didn’t have to ask before. And the question that I’m going to centre on today is “how is your screen usage?”. This was not…

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How to Become an Exceptional Wife

Men & Women are Different One of the most common complaints I hear about men from their wives is that they’re not as emotionally available or present as their wives would like them to be. And in my experience, even…

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How to Become an Exceptional Husband

Are Women High Maintenance? I received a comment on my YouTube channel a few days ago in response to a video about unmet needs that cause men to withdraw from their wives. It read: “Hey guys. You want unconditional love, respect,…