Welcome to my blog. Here I share honest, no-nonsense writing about relationships, intimacy, and mental health. My goal is simple: to give you tools, insights, and encouragement you can use in real life.

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How to Write a Relationship Contract

A Shared Vision for Your Relationship Is your relationship on the right track? Is your it where you hoped it would be when you first started dating? Is the division of labour in your household fair? Is your spending under control? Are…

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The News, Social Media & Mental Health

Screen Addiction When people come and see me nowadays, I’m having to ask questions that I didn’t have to ask before. And the question that I’m going to centre on today is “how is your screen usage?”. This was not…

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How to Become an Exceptional Wife

Men & Women are Different One of the most common complaints I hear about men from their wives is that they’re not as emotionally available or present as their wives would like them to be. And in my experience, even…

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How to Become an Exceptional Husband

Are Women High Maintenance? I received a comment on my YouTube channel a few days ago in response to a video about unmet needs that cause men to withdraw from their wives. It read: “Hey guys. You want unconditional love, respect,…

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Maintenance Sex: A Guide for Couples

Sex in The Honeymoon Phase Sex is rarely a problem for couples in the throws of early relationship euphoria. The heady, lust filled giddiness of the honeymoon phase. You’re both convinced that you finally met your soul mate, the perfect partner. You were…

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How to Handle Conflict with Your Spouse

Building a Healthy Marriage A life lived in a healthy, functional marriage is significantly better for us than a life lived alone. Happily married individuals experience better health and longevity, higher levels of happiness, increased self-actualisation and life satisfaction and…

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How to Increase Female Libido

What Does ‘Libido’ Really Mean? We commonly think of the word libido to simply mean ‘sex-drive’. And whilst that’s certainly true, it’s actually much more than that. The Latin word libido means desire, longing or lust and it refers to our…

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Withholding in Relationships

Generosity is the Antidote to Withholding A frequent problem I hear when couples come to see me is that neither partner treats the other in the positive, generous or loving way they used to when they first met. Relationships that…