Welcome to my blog. Here I share honest, no-nonsense writing about relationships, intimacy, and mental health. My goal is simple: to give you tools, insights, and encouragement you can use in real life.
Hi, I am Laura, a relationship counsellor and coach in the UK. I help couples build relationships that feel alive, connected, and deeply fulfilling. If you are new here, welcome; it is lovely to have you. This is our personal…
We all know sex tends to decline with age; that’s nothing new. But what’s happening now is different. Couples today are having far less sex than couples the same age just a generation ago⁽¹⁾. What used to be once a…
Editor’s Note: Updated August 2025 to cover more perspectives. If your wife no longer wants to have sex with you, it can feel like the bottom has dropped out of your marriage. Because for most men, sex is the primary…
Breaking The Anger Cycle & Rebuilding Intimacy FEMALE SEXUAL DESIRE IN LONG-TERM MARRIAGE If sex feels distant, pressured, or confusing, this is where to begin. In many sexless marriages, the issue is not simply frequency. It is a shift in…
Relationship Needs vs. Wants Relationship needs are the fundamental requirements for a romantic partnership to thrive, ensuring both partners feel secure, respected, and valued. These non-negotiable elements form the foundation of a healthy relationship and include trust, communication, emotional safety,…
Is Sexual Intimacy a Want or a Need? If you engage with relationship advice content as I do, you’re likely aware that the discussion surrounding relational needs is a hot topic. The need for emotional connection. The need for honest…
Porn in Marriage If you want your marriage to thrive then it must be treated as a major priority in your life. In order for this to be the case it is essential to challenge your own behaviours on a…
Throwing Men Under The Bus I believe that the most recent wave of feminism, ‘woke feminism’, has encouraged a derisive attitude towards men in the news, media & entertainment industries. I also believe the effect of this phenomenon is harmful…
Exploring The Morality of Sexual obligation Firstly, a disclaimer: every sexual encounter in your marriage should always involve the willing consent of both partners. And every sexual act should be performed by choice, as an act of love and never,…
A Plea for Compassion If you’re a woman and you’re married to a generally good man, a kind, loving and devoted husband, but sex has been off the menu for some time, without consultation with or willing consent from him,…