Sex is an Emotional Need A fulfilling sex life is not a bi-product of a successful marriage, it’s a necessary component of one. It’s not a special treat, a reward for good behaviour or a bargaining chip for favour. It’s…
The Decline of Intimacy in Marriage You must have heard the old penny jar metaphor? The old folk tale that suggests that if a married couple were to put a penny in a jar for every sexual encounter during the…
A Holistic Approach to Relational Well-Being If we as human beings want to feel whole and fully alive, then we need to tend to every aspect of our health as individuals. In my view this includes, amongst other things, our…
Lack of Effort in Relationships At the heart of most of the problems I encounter in my work with married couples, is a fundamental lack of individual effort when it comes to meeting each other’s reasonable needs. It doesn’t really…
Sex in The Honeymoon Phase Sex is rarely a problem for couples in the throws of early relationship euphoria. The heady, lust filled giddiness of the honeymoon phase. You’re both convinced that you finally met your soul mate, the perfect partner. You were…
What Does ‘Libido’ Really Mean? We commonly think of the word libido to simply mean ‘sex-drive’. And whilst that’s certainly true, it’s actually much more than that. The Latin word libido means desire, longing or lust and it refers to our…
What Are Reasonable Needs? In this article, I’m going to help you get clear in your mind exactly what reasonable needs are, how to communicate them to your partner, and what to do if they continue to go unmet. Firstly…
How Women Can Help Their Husbands TO Become More Present The number one complaint I hear from wives when they come to couples counselling with their husbands, is that their husband has become distant or detached, and that he no…