Welcome to my blog. Here I share honest, no-nonsense writing about relationships, intimacy, and mental health. My goal is simple: to give you tools, insights, and encouragement you can use in real life.

How to Handle Conflict

How to Handle Conflict with Your Spouse

Building a Healthy Marriage A life lived in a healthy, functional marriage is significantly better for us than a life lived alone. Happily married individuals experience better health and longevity, higher levels of happiness, increased self-actualisation and life satisfaction and…

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How to Increase Female Libido

What Does ‘Libido’ Really Mean? We commonly think of the word libido to simply mean ‘sex-drive’. And whilst that’s certainly true, it’s actually much more than that. The Latin word libido means desire, longing or lust and it refers to our…

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Withholding in Relationships

Generosity is the Antidote to Withholding A frequent problem I hear when couples come to see me is that neither partner treats the other in the positive, generous or loving way they used to when they first met. Relationships that…

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Why Your Husband Has Withdrawn

How Women Can Help Their Husbands TO Become More Present The number one complaint I hear from wives when they come to couples counselling with their husbands, is that their husband has become distant or detached, and that he no…

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How to Stop Being Defensive

How do you react when your partner complains about something you’ve said or done?  Do you feel attacked and want to fight back or bring up something they did in the past?   Or do you feel overwhelmed, injured and unable…

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How to Enrich Your Life

Have you ever felt like there should be more to life?  “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honourable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have…

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How to Detox Your Life

Clearing Away Things That Don’t Serve You “You will find that it is necessary to let things go; simply for the reason that they are heavy.”  — C. Joy Bell If you want to live to your fullest potential, you…

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How to be a Good Partner

Are You a Good Partner? Everyone wants a good partner. Are you one? What would your partner say? There seems to be a lot of talk nowadays about bad partners. Everybody seems to have one. No good women, no good…