Welcome to my blog. Here I share honest, no-nonsense writing about relationships, intimacy, and mental health. My goal is simple: to give you tools, insights, and encouragement you can use in real life.
Are You a Good Partner? Everyone wants a good partner. Are you one? What would your partner say? There seems to be a lot of talk nowadays about bad partners. Everybody seems to have one. No good women, no good…
“You know, in the deepest part of your heart, that when you don’t tell the truth, the world falls apart.” ―Jordan B. Peterson. Honesty is good for your mental health Tell the truth. Like the fabric of your existence depends…
“Challenges are what make life interesting, and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.” – Joshua J. Marine Investigating Problems Consistently and skilfully explore the problems you have as a couple and as individuals together, as they arise. If you…
“What comes easy won’t last long, and what lasts long won’t come easy.” — Francis Kong The End of The Honeymoon PHASE When it comes to our physical health, we know that prevention is better than cure. We know that…
A Love Story. Learning the Art of Self-Regulation. “We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship, and we can be healed in relationship.” – Harville Hendrix Dysfunctional childhoods often lead to emotional dysregulation in children and adults. Conversely,…
Forward Motion It occurred to me recently, when walking up a steep track on the hill by my home, a hill I power up regularly, that it is important to develop a strong upward, and forward motion in life, no…
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” – Aristotle Self Knowledge What is your relationship with yourself like? I ask many clients this question as it often occurs to me early on in our working relationship that people don’t…
“If you see something beautiful in someone, speak it.” ― Ruthie Lindsey Love is Action It seems to me; most people nowadays think that happy couples are somehow lucky. That they perhaps managed to find ‘the one’ and that the seemingly…
“The search for a scapegoat is the easiest of all hunting expeditions.” ― Dwight D. Eisenhower My parents told us, my sister, brother and I, that they were getting a divorce when I was eleven years old. My world immediately fell…
In his research into what made marriages stable and what led to relationship collapse, Gottman thought he had worked it out when he concluded that teaching couples how to argue without being overridden by the four horsemen was the answer.…