Welcome to my blog. Here I share honest, no-nonsense writing about relationships, intimacy, and mental health. My goal is simple: to give you tools, insights, and encouragement you can use in real life.
What Are Reasonable Needs? In this article, I’m going to help you get clear in your mind exactly what reasonable needs are, how to communicate them to your partner, and what to do if they continue to go unmet. Firstly…
Generosity is the Antidote to Withholding A frequent problem I hear when couples come to see me is that neither partner treats the other in the positive, generous or loving way they used to when they first met. Relationships that…
How Women Can Help Their Husbands TO Become More Present The number one complaint I hear from wives when they come to couples counselling with their husbands, is that their husband has become distant or detached, and that he no…
How do you react when your partner complains about something you’ve said or done? Do you feel attacked and want to fight back or bring up something they did in the past? Or do you feel overwhelmed, injured and unable…
Have you ever felt like there should be more to life? “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honourable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have…
Clearing Away Things That Don’t Serve You “You will find that it is necessary to let things go; simply for the reason that they are heavy.” — C. Joy Bell If you want to live to your fullest potential, you…
Are You a Good Partner? Everyone wants a good partner. Are you one? What would your partner say? There seems to be a lot of talk nowadays about bad partners. Everybody seems to have one. No good women, no good…
“You know, in the deepest part of your heart, that when you don’t tell the truth, the world falls apart.” ―Jordan B. Peterson. Honesty is good for your mental health Tell the truth. Like the fabric of your existence depends…
“Challenges are what make life interesting, and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.” – Joshua J. Marine Investigating Problems Consistently and skilfully explore the problems you have as a couple and as individuals together, as they arise. If you…
“What comes easy won’t last long, and what lasts long won’t come easy.” — Francis Kong The End of The Honeymoon PHASE When it comes to our physical health, we know that prevention is better than cure. We know that…