Welcome to my blog. Here I share honest, no-nonsense writing about relationships, intimacy, and mental health. My goal is simple: to give you tools, insights, and encouragement you can use in real life.
Sex in The Honeymoon Phase Sex is rarely a problem for couples in the throws of early relationship euphoria. The heady, lust filled giddiness of the honeymoon phase. You’re both convinced that you finally met your soul mate, the perfect partner. You were…
Building a Healthy Marriage A life lived in a healthy, functional marriage is significantly better for us than a life lived alone. Happily married individuals experience better health and longevity, higher levels of happiness, increased self-actualisation and life satisfaction and…
What Does ‘Libido’ Really Mean? We commonly think of the word libido to simply mean ‘sex-drive’. And whilst that’s certainly true, it’s actually much more than that. The Latin word libido means desire, longing or lust and it refers to our…
Not Caring Is Unnatural If you’re stuck in an unhappy marriage with a spouse that doesn’t appear to care about you, and for whatever reason, you can’t or won’t leave then as far as I can see, you have two…
What Are Reasonable Needs? In this article, I’m going to help you get clear in your mind exactly what reasonable needs are, how to communicate them to your partner, and what to do if they continue to go unmet. Firstly…
Generosity is the Antidote to Withholding A frequent problem I hear when couples come to see me is that neither partner treats the other in the positive, generous or loving way they used to when they first met. Relationships that…
How Women Can Help Their Husbands TO Become More Present The number one complaint I hear from wives when they come to couples counselling with their husbands, is that their husband has become distant or detached, and that he no…
How do you react when your partner complains about something you’ve said or done? Do you feel attacked and want to fight back or bring up something they did in the past? Or do you feel overwhelmed, injured and unable…
Have you ever felt like there should be more to life? “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honourable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have…
Clearing Away Things That Don’t Serve You “You will find that it is necessary to let things go; simply for the reason that they are heavy.” — C. Joy Bell If you want to live to your fullest potential, you…