Welcome to my blog. Here I share honest, no-nonsense writing about relationships, intimacy, and mental health. My goal is simple: to give you tools, insights, and encouragement you can use in real life.
Lack of Effort in Relationships At the heart of most of the problems I encounter in my work with married couples, is a fundamental lack of individual effort when it comes to meeting each other’s reasonable needs. It doesn’t really…
A ‘Hopeless’ Marriage? I’ve been inundated with comments on YouTube from people married to what they would describe as hopelessly uncaring spouses. Lost causes. They tell me they’ve done everything they possibly can to be a loving partner but that despite…
A Shared Vision for Your Relationship Is your relationship on the right track? Is your it where you hoped it would be when you first started dating? Is the division of labour in your household fair? Is your spending under control? Are…
Screen Addiction When people come and see me nowadays, I’m having to ask questions that I didn’t have to ask before. And the question that I’m going to centre on today is “how is your screen usage?”. This was not…
Men & Women are Different One of the most common complaints I hear about men from their wives is that they’re not as emotionally available or present as their wives would like them to be. And in my experience, even…
Are Women High Maintenance? I received a comment on my YouTube channel a few days ago in response to a video about unmet needs that cause men to withdraw from their wives. It read: “Hey guys. You want unconditional love, respect,…
Sex in The Honeymoon Phase Sex is rarely a problem for couples in the throws of early relationship euphoria. The heady, lust filled giddiness of the honeymoon phase. You’re both convinced that you finally met your soul mate, the perfect partner. You were…
Building a Healthy Marriage A life lived in a healthy, functional marriage is significantly better for us than a life lived alone. Happily married individuals experience better health and longevity, higher levels of happiness, increased self-actualisation and life satisfaction and…
What Does ‘Libido’ Really Mean? We commonly think of the word libido to simply mean ‘sex-drive’. And whilst that’s certainly true, it’s actually much more than that. The Latin word libido means desire, longing or lust and it refers to our…
Not Caring Is Unnatural If you’re stuck in an unhappy marriage with a spouse that doesn’t appear to care about you, and for whatever reason, you can’t or won’t leave then as far as I can see, you have two…