Welcome to my blog. Here I share honest, no-nonsense writing about relationships, intimacy, and mental health. My goal is simple: to give you tools, insights, and encouragement you can use in real life.
Forward Motion It occurred to me recently, when walking up a steep track on the hill by my home, a hill I power up regularly, that it is important to develop a strong upward, and forward motion in life, no…
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” – Aristotle Self Knowledge What is your relationship with yourself like? I ask many clients this question as it often occurs to me early on in our working relationship that people don’t…
“If you see something beautiful in someone, speak it.” ― Ruthie Lindsey Love is Action It seems to me; most people nowadays think that happy couples are somehow lucky. That they perhaps managed to find ‘the one’ and that the seemingly…
“The search for a scapegoat is the easiest of all hunting expeditions.” ― Dwight D. Eisenhower My parents told us, my sister, brother and I, that they were getting a divorce when I was eleven years old. My world immediately fell…
In his research into what made marriages stable and what led to relationship collapse, Gottman thought he had worked it out when he concluded that teaching couples how to argue without being overridden by the four horsemen was the answer.…
“A romantic and sexual long-term committed relationship with another human remains the greatest gift life can offer” – John M Gottman PH.D. ‘The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work.’ The greatest gift life can offer. It’s worth giving that some…
I imagine we are all grappling with self-esteem to a greater or lesser degree depending on how we live and how honest we are about our successes and failures. Life is extremely challenging and complex and getting good at it…
It is relatively well understood nowadays that our early relationships establish templates or patterns that we tend to apply to all subsequent relationships. This is the nurture in nature/nurture and wonderful news if your early relationships were warm, attentive, and…
One of the first books I read on the psychology of love, traditional values, and spiritual growth was The Road Less Travelled by M. Scott Peck. A great book to read if you think you’d like to improve the way…