What Does ‘Libido’ Really Mean? We commonly think of the word libido to simply mean ‘sex-drive’. And whilst that’s certainly true, it’s actually much more than that. The Latin word libido means desire, longing or lust and it refers to our…
Not Caring Is Unnatural If you’re stuck in an unhappy marriage with a spouse that doesn’t appear to care about you, and for whatever reason, you can’t or won’t leave then as far as I can see, you have two…
What Are Reasonable Needs? In this article, I’m going to help you get clear in your mind exactly what reasonable needs are, how to communicate them to your partner, and what to do if they continue to go unmet. Firstly…
Generosity is the Antidote to Withholding A frequent problem I hear when couples come to see me is that neither partner treats the other in the positive, generous or loving way they used to when they first met. Relationships that…
How Women Can Help Their Husbands TO Become More Present The number one complaint I hear from wives when they come to couples counselling with their husbands, is that their husband has become distant or detached, and that he no…
How do you react when your partner complains about something you’ve said or done? Do you feel attacked and want to fight back or bring up something they did in the past? Or do you feel overwhelmed, injured and unable…
Are You a Good Partner? Everyone wants a good partner. Are you one? What would your partner say? There seems to be a lot of talk nowadays about bad partners. Everybody seems to have one. No good women, no good…
“Challenges are what make life interesting, and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.” – Joshua J. Marine Investigating Problems Consistently and skilfully explore the problems you have as a couple and as individuals together, as they arise. If you…
“What comes easy won’t last long, and what lasts long won’t come easy.” — Francis Kong The End of The Honeymoon PHASE When it comes to our physical health, we know that prevention is better than cure. We know that…
A Love Story. Learning the Art of Self-Regulation. “We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship, and we can be healed in relationship.” – Harville Hendrix Dysfunctional childhoods often lead to emotional dysregulation in children and adults. Conversely,…